When the only representation of people like you is stereotypes, that is all people will see. Every action becomes about denying or affirming their preconceived notions. Being a nonbinary Chinese-Colombian-American pansexual, it is hard to see myself represented in media. It is rare to see queer characters in movies and shows, especially portrayed by people of color. I want the world to know I am not a supporting character in someone else’s narrative. I am the main character and I am not your model minority.
I've dated a spectrum of people, but my last two serious relationships were with cis men. In both cases, there was a sense of uneasiness with my bisexuality. It's consistently combated by my partners and others with words like, 'but you like boys more, right?' or 'you can't be bi because you're with me' and 'why don't you just date a girl then.' These comments received from those I've dated, family members, and friends make me feel belittled, overlooked, and ultimately unseen by those who I love unconditionally. But I won't let my sexuality be determined by others to make them feel comfortable. It's mine. And I'll be who defines it.
Text graphic 'Yes and I'm still bi' created by Jessica.
I'm Out, Let Me In
You think I’m fake and threatening.
A shape-shifting monster
Lurking in your territory
Who can’t choose their final form.
But I counter with unconditional love.
To connect beyond a binary expectation
To constantly evolve my representation,
Separate from my sexual partner.
I have a place in this line-up,
All of us.
Regardless of what you think you see
You and me are we.